Sometimes the motivations for our behavior are cut and dry—you cut your finger and wince. For more complex or confusing reactions—the dry cleaner ruins your favorite shirt and you threaten to sue them (it’s not about the shirt itself but the memory tied to the shirt because it belonged to your best friend who died recently), it’s helpful to explore the reasons behind our behavior. If we want to be true to ourselves, and in turn be true to others, we need to fully understand why we do what we do. However, there is seldom just one motive for our behaviors. Diving under the surface, going beyond the obvious reasons, and discovering what drives your behavior benefits your peace of mind and your relationships with others.